Dilemma

[denny]

Glade festival is the same weekend as libellum's brother's wedding. Argh.

I really want to go to Glade this year - denari's review last year sold it with no questions asked - but on the other hand, I do really like her brother, and he won't be getting married again next year. I say again, argh.

Does Emily Post have anything to say on this one?

Comments

[libellum.livejournal.com]

Since you're asking about etiquette, some might consider it marginally more polite to have this discussion privately, rather than in front of the happy couple, and then make your apologies if necessary once you've reached a decision. It should be obvious that those at the wedding would rather you joined them, and likewise those at Glade; are you expecting anyone else to have an opinion other than "work out what your priorities are, and decide on that basis"?

[dennyd.livejournal.com]

some might consider it marginally more polite to have this discussion privately, rather than in front of the happy couple

Some might. I very definitely do not.

are you expecting anyone else to have an opinion other than "work out what your priorities are, and decide on that basis"?

I expect people to have all kinds of opinions, about most things. I don't necessarily intend to act on them, but it's often interesting to discuss them.