Beware Of The Ben

[denny]

duranorak got propositioned by a guy while we were out together this weekend. She seems mildly offended that when she turned him down, he went and found someone else to grope in a corner instead, rather than carrying on the conversation he'd struck up with her prior to the crucial "Fancy coming back to my place later?"

I'm intrigued by all this... personally, I'm always quite complimented when people hit on me... and unless we were at a fetish club, I'd expect it to be done in much the way this was (i.e. express some vague interest in the person you're chatting up, then pop the question at them) rather than just starting out with "So, fancy a shag?", which seems to be what duranorak would have preferred - it would be more honest, apparently. If not particularly socially acceptable, I'm thinking.

So, where was I going with this? Oh yes... question: if being approached as a potential shag in a pub or club, would you prefer the 'Hi, how are you/do you come here often/what's your sign/etc?' approach, or the 'Hi, wanna fuck?' approach?

Comments

[wildeabandon.livejournal.com]

You m'dear, are far too trusting. Expecting people who know you to take you at your word/stick to theirs, is one thing, but strangers? Why should they? They have no idea what you're like.

I didn't believe interesting people had 'lines'

Heck, I have lines. Don't use them very often, but I have them.

Um. And drawing the obvious conclusion from that will get you pouted at...

I've been telling myself I was about to go to bed for the past three comments. I really am going to now...

[duranorak.livejournal.com]

I don't know, I don't automatically distrust strangers so I don't assume they'll automatically distrust me. ~sigh~ Whatever.

Sleep well.

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