Beware Of The Ben

[denny]

duranorak got propositioned by a guy while we were out together this weekend. She seems mildly offended that when she turned him down, he went and found someone else to grope in a corner instead, rather than carrying on the conversation he'd struck up with her prior to the crucial "Fancy coming back to my place later?"

I'm intrigued by all this... personally, I'm always quite complimented when people hit on me... and unless we were at a fetish club, I'd expect it to be done in much the way this was (i.e. express some vague interest in the person you're chatting up, then pop the question at them) rather than just starting out with "So, fancy a shag?", which seems to be what duranorak would have preferred - it would be more honest, apparently. If not particularly socially acceptable, I'm thinking.

So, where was I going with this? Oh yes... question: if being approached as a potential shag in a pub or club, would you prefer the 'Hi, how are you/do you come here often/what's your sign/etc?' approach, or the 'Hi, wanna fuck?' approach?

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[duranorak.livejournal.com]

Well...well...~gestures in an entirely fucking exasperated way~ I expect people to take me at my word ("I'll be back after this song") and I expect to be able to take people at theirs ("I'll be here after this song") and normally that's borne out which is why it throws me so much when I meet a Ben person who isn't honest!

~sigh~

I didn't believe interesting people had 'lines' - I thought that was just for people without the wit to come up with anything original. Because people don't chat me up, I guess. I just don't have the words for how depressed this thread has made me.

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[wildeabandon.livejournal.com]

You m'dear, are far too trusting. Expecting people who know you to take you at your word/stick to theirs, is one thing, but strangers? Why should they? They have no idea what you're like.

I didn't believe interesting people had 'lines'

Heck, I have lines. Don't use them very often, but I have them.

Um. And drawing the obvious conclusion from that will get you pouted at...

I've been telling myself I was about to go to bed for the past three comments. I really am going to now...

[duranorak.livejournal.com]

I don't know, I don't automatically distrust strangers so I don't assume they'll automatically distrust me. ~sigh~ Whatever.

Sleep well.

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[reddragdiva]

I use lines all the time. If you get post-post-ironic enough, it means the same thing, but better. And stuff.

[dennyd.livejournal.com]

I didn't believe interesting people had 'lines' - I thought that was just for people without the wit to come up with anything original.

Well, he's kinda cute, but that doesn't mean he's actually going to be interesting to hold a conversation with. As proved, or at least strongly suggested, by his behaviour on Friday.

Because people don't chat me up, I guess.

Um. What was he doing then?  :)

You may wish to try and develop a slightly thicker skin about being approached by people who lack key social skills in this area... it's likely to happen more often as you grow more confident and look more approachable.

*huggles* Miss you *kiss*

[duranorak.livejournal.com]

I meant to add "(which he was)" after "interesting people". He was, really. Just, kind of crap with it. Or, y'know, Ben.

Heck, I need a thicker skin to deal with everything.
Whatever. Lots and lots of whatever. And lots.

But I miss you, too.

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