Beware Of The Ben

[denny]

duranorak got propositioned by a guy while we were out together this weekend. She seems mildly offended that when she turned him down, he went and found someone else to grope in a corner instead, rather than carrying on the conversation he'd struck up with her prior to the crucial "Fancy coming back to my place later?"

I'm intrigued by all this... personally, I'm always quite complimented when people hit on me... and unless we were at a fetish club, I'd expect it to be done in much the way this was (i.e. express some vague interest in the person you're chatting up, then pop the question at them) rather than just starting out with "So, fancy a shag?", which seems to be what duranorak would have preferred - it would be more honest, apparently. If not particularly socially acceptable, I'm thinking.

So, where was I going with this? Oh yes... question: if being approached as a potential shag in a pub or club, would you prefer the 'Hi, how are you/do you come here often/what's your sign/etc?' approach, or the 'Hi, wanna fuck?' approach?

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[duranorak.livejournal.com]

The Ben and Tom thing has sort of been brewing for ages. It wasn't all this guy's fault, damn the little bastard punch his lights out make sure he has no further balls to play with grr grr argh honest. :)

I'd feel complimented if someone wanted to talk to me.
I'd feel complimented if someone wanted to sleep with me.
I'd feel used if someone pretended one to get to the other. (Unlikely as the reverse of what happened this time might seem, I have actually had it happen to me. Though not via a Ben or a Tom.)

And all of what nickys said, to the letter.

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