Beware Of The Ben

[denny]

duranorak got propositioned by a guy while we were out together this weekend. She seems mildly offended that when she turned him down, he went and found someone else to grope in a corner instead, rather than carrying on the conversation he'd struck up with her prior to the crucial "Fancy coming back to my place later?"

I'm intrigued by all this... personally, I'm always quite complimented when people hit on me... and unless we were at a fetish club, I'd expect it to be done in much the way this was (i.e. express some vague interest in the person you're chatting up, then pop the question at them) rather than just starting out with "So, fancy a shag?", which seems to be what duranorak would have preferred - it would be more honest, apparently. If not particularly socially acceptable, I'm thinking.

So, where was I going with this? Oh yes... question: if being approached as a potential shag in a pub or club, would you prefer the 'Hi, how are you/do you come here often/what's your sign/etc?' approach, or the 'Hi, wanna fuck?' approach?

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[aiwendel.livejournal.com]

whether the answer to the 2nd question was "yes" or "no" would depend on if they were interesting etc and i got on with them.
so "do you want a fuck" would get a big "fuck off!" or "go fuck yourself" in reply....

whereas after talking a while, then i'd probably cope with the question, and respond according to how well i got on with them etc etc.

If they were just after sex it'd be fairly obvious from their manner anyway, and and them going off to chat up someone else after would generally be more amuzing (and flattering that they'd talked to me first) than anything negative...

:)