Beware Of The Ben

[denny]

duranorak got propositioned by a guy while we were out together this weekend. She seems mildly offended that when she turned him down, he went and found someone else to grope in a corner instead, rather than carrying on the conversation he'd struck up with her prior to the crucial "Fancy coming back to my place later?"

I'm intrigued by all this... personally, I'm always quite complimented when people hit on me... and unless we were at a fetish club, I'd expect it to be done in much the way this was (i.e. express some vague interest in the person you're chatting up, then pop the question at them) rather than just starting out with "So, fancy a shag?", which seems to be what duranorak would have preferred - it would be more honest, apparently. If not particularly socially acceptable, I'm thinking.

So, where was I going with this? Oh yes... question: if being approached as a potential shag in a pub or club, would you prefer the 'Hi, how are you/do you come here often/what's your sign/etc?' approach, or the 'Hi, wanna fuck?' approach?

Comments

[reddragdiva]

"Get your coat, you've pulled."

I don't actually do chatup lines. At all. It's all done by some magical process of social osmosis.

As I get older and more past it wiser, I have taken to actually telling people I fancy them incredibly. This works surprisingly well. Well, it would have surprised a much younger me. Oh, the people I wish I'd told, way back when ...

[velvetfox.livejournal.com]

Meh, but sometimes telling people you fancy them just Cant Be Done. *yikes*

And sometimes if you fancy someone it's easy to just say 'wanna fuck' and get it out of your system before it starts to get any deeper into you.

[reddragdiva]

Sure it can. You just need to say "Hey, nice [body part]!" in the right tone of voice.

This can take years of practice.

[velvetfox.livejournal.com]

yes but *whispers* "then they'd know"

[reddragdiva]

You're going to be kicking yourself so hard in five years when you finally start trying this method and it works spectacularly.

[velvetfox.livejournal.com]

no no don't get me wrong, this one works for me, just not with certain special people.

[reddragdiva]

Yeah, that one can be a bugger.