That Helen talks a lot of sense sometimes, doesn't she? ;-)
I like your final paragraph; as you might imagine, it's something I've come across time and again. Sure, people telling you that you're not ugly or whatever sinks in eventually, if this is an issue for you. But saying, "I feel that people judge me for my weight / do not consider me attractive, and I'm unhappy about that", is one thing; it's quite another, as you say, to feel unhappy within yourself about changes that have taken place in your body, whether that's weight or health or mentally or anything else you care to mention. Reassurance that you're not an ogre doesn't really touch on the latter, although it's helpful if any of the former is going on.
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Date: 2006-08-16 03:10 pm (UTC)I like your final paragraph; as you might imagine, it's something I've come across time and again. Sure, people telling you that you're not ugly or whatever sinks in eventually, if this is an issue for you. But saying, "I feel that people judge me for my weight / do not consider me attractive, and I'm unhappy about that", is one thing; it's quite another, as you say, to feel unhappy within yourself about changes that have taken place in your body, whether that's weight or health or mentally or anything else you care to mention. Reassurance that you're not an ogre doesn't really touch on the latter, although it's helpful if any of the former is going on.