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denny...the delicate sound of my patience finally snapping.
1. If you do someone a favour, and then remind them of it every time you want something in return, it wasn't a favour, and you're not their friend. It was an investment, and you're a trader. You might as well go and play the stock market, or buy and sell used cars. There will always be times when a friend has done more for you than you have for them, or you've done more for them than they have for you. If you're keeping track, you've missed the point of what friendship is about. If you're keeping track and trying to make your friend feel bad about any imbalance, you've lost the plot completely.
2. If a friend does something you disapprove of, and your response to that is to send them bitchy emails or text messages, then you're only going to push them further away from you. If you don't care about them any more, why are you bothering to communicate with them? If you do care, why are you being nasty to them? Think about your motives, then act on them with intelligence, not spite.
3. Sarcasm is the lowest form of wit. Can't remember who that's quoting, but really, even American teenagers can manage sarcasm. If that's all you've got in you as an attack, don't ever chance your luck on usenet, they'll eat you alive. The only response a seriously intended sarcastic attack is likely to elicit from anyone over the age of 12 is "Grow up".
4. Other people have problems too. Your life might be falling to pieces around you, but if you're going to rely on someone else to pick them up, you might want to check to see how full their arms are already.
5. If a friend does have too many problems of their own to help you with your problem, it doesn't mean that they're not your friend. It just means they can't help you this time. And don't think that realising that doesn't hurt them.
Disclaimer: unless you sent me a sarcastic text message today about what a lousy friend I am after all you've done for me, then you did not provoke this post.
1. If you do someone a favour, and then remind them of it every time you want something in return, it wasn't a favour, and you're not their friend. It was an investment, and you're a trader. You might as well go and play the stock market, or buy and sell used cars. There will always be times when a friend has done more for you than you have for them, or you've done more for them than they have for you. If you're keeping track, you've missed the point of what friendship is about. If you're keeping track and trying to make your friend feel bad about any imbalance, you've lost the plot completely.
2. If a friend does something you disapprove of, and your response to that is to send them bitchy emails or text messages, then you're only going to push them further away from you. If you don't care about them any more, why are you bothering to communicate with them? If you do care, why are you being nasty to them? Think about your motives, then act on them with intelligence, not spite.
3. Sarcasm is the lowest form of wit. Can't remember who that's quoting, but really, even American teenagers can manage sarcasm. If that's all you've got in you as an attack, don't ever chance your luck on usenet, they'll eat you alive. The only response a seriously intended sarcastic attack is likely to elicit from anyone over the age of 12 is "Grow up".
4. Other people have problems too. Your life might be falling to pieces around you, but if you're going to rely on someone else to pick them up, you might want to check to see how full their arms are already.
5. If a friend does have too many problems of their own to help you with your problem, it doesn't mean that they're not your friend. It just means they can't help you this time. And don't think that realising that doesn't hurt them.
Disclaimer: unless you sent me a sarcastic text message today about what a lousy friend I am after all you've done for me, then you did not provoke this post.
