Oh look, it's Xmas

[denny]

Traditional time for family arguments then.

Up to this year I've not actually noticed any of these in my family, not from when I was a little kid through to the present day. However, this year my dad managed to piss me off in a major way today (final straw in a big pile), so today I have:

* hung up on him
* refused to answer his calls thereafter
* emailed him telling him in quite vicious phrasing that I wasn't intending to answer his calls, would ring him when I felt like it, and if he starts teasing me again about subjects which trigger me into minor depressive episodes, he can expect this kind of response again
* arranged to have Xmas dinner with my sister and brother instead of him and my Nan
* rung him up, told him my new arrangements in about that many words, said goodbye and hung up again.

I think I'll go and have a bath now.

Comments

[kissycat1000.livejournal.com]

*sigh* Oh dear.. Parents, who'd have them?

[wildeabandon.livejournal.com]

Oh love. *cuddles tight*

I'm sure he didn't mean anything by it, parents just don't seem to be veyr good at listening to their kids.

*hugs*

E.

[dennyd.livejournal.com]

Yeah, well I think I got his full attention this time... shame it has to go that far first. He's replied to my email apologising, at least.

It wasn't just that he got on my nerves today that prompted me to rearrange dinner anyway, the rest of the 'family day' that would have necessarily gone with the dinner (me not being able to drive off when I get bored) wasn't really something I was going to enjoy. Dinner with Gina et al should be considerably more entertaining before and after.

[uberredfraggle.livejournal.com]

eeeeep. *hugs*
at least my parents will shut up this year coz we cant argue in front of the kid we have staying. hope it turns out to be a good one for you anyway.

[snow-leopard.livejournal.com]

Oh dear.
Parents are difficult. I survive mine by hiding about half (two thirds) of my life from them.
Hope things work out.
*hugs*

[valkyriekaren.livejournal.com]

*hugs* You can choose your friends, but your family you're stuck with.

There's no point in bearing a grudge, though; show him you're upset by all means, and make it clear that you don't want to discuss [whatever the topic was], but family is family and you have to put up with them.

[dennyd.livejournal.com]

My ex had a postcard on her wall that said 'Friends are the family you choose for yourself', which I thought was quite nice.

I'll cut him some slack when I calm down... I suspect the new Xmas dinner arrangements will be more fun than dinner with the older half of my family anyway... hopefully I can catch up with my nan and aunts another day.

[fellcat.livejournal.com]

starts teasing me again about subjects which trigger me into minor depressive episodes

Then you've got every damn right to tell him where to go. I thought fathers were supposed to care about the health and well-being of their offspring, whether mental, physical, or otherwise. <sarcasm>Obviously I was mistaken.</sarcasm>

[katishna.livejournal.com]

I've said to numerous people that sometimes it's better to build your family from your friends and the relatives you like than to put up with the people you're related to who put you down.

[lzz.livejournal.com]

*hugs*
Parents seem to have a tremendous ability to do this, (presumably) without meaning to...

[alixandrea.livejournal.com]

You have my sympathies entirely on this one...

I'm seeing my Mum and Nana on Boxing Day, and spending the rest of the time with Erik/his Dad/avoiding the rest of my family.

This is one of the major reasons I _hate_ Christmas...