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gothslut
Aug. 19th, 2003 04:44 pm1. Overall, which has been the best year of your life so far? The worst?
Worst was undoubtedly 2001, although 2000 probably shares contributory blame for that. The best is harder to pin down though... I suspect sometime in my early 20s is likely, but nothing stands out in particular - I just remember being happy a vast majority of the time back then, with very little in the way of serious problems or pressures in my life.
2. You have to make a terrible terrible decision (desert islands may be involved) - give up either the internet or sex for the rest of your life. Which will it be?
That's not so much a decision as a reflex :) Bye bye Internet!
3. What attribute do you most seek in a partner; what do you most seek to avoid? Are these different in a friend?
The only things I can think of to claim I look for in a partner are intelligence, and various physical attributes all of which various partners of mine have not conformed to. So actually I think its just intelligence.
Which makes me sound far deeper than I think I actually am :)
I very rarely make real friendships with people who aren't intelligent as well, so I guess that's almost my only guiding criteria for people who are worth interacting with - as friends or partners.
I do tend to avoid brashly extrovert people. Being shy and introvert myself, they seem to make me feel either harassed or annoyed, depending on what mood I'm in. Or perhaps I just wish I could be more like them.
4. How do you know that you love someone; what about that you're in love with them?
Love, because I find myself willing to put myself out for them, to a significant degree. The definition of 'significant' is of course subjective, and I suspect it's also highly variable based on how my life is currently going, but it's significant to me at that time, and I suspect would be viewed as significant by most people. Heinlein had a definition of love which is quite neat - it's that someone else's happiness is essential to your own.
In love, you could say I feel compelled to put myself out for someone rather than just being willing. Compelled by my own choice, or perhaps choice isn't the word. It's a feeling that over-rides basic common sense. Not that I ever had much of that anyway :)
5. Where do you see yourself being in five years time? 10? 20?
In bed :)
Worst was undoubtedly 2001, although 2000 probably shares contributory blame for that. The best is harder to pin down though... I suspect sometime in my early 20s is likely, but nothing stands out in particular - I just remember being happy a vast majority of the time back then, with very little in the way of serious problems or pressures in my life.
2. You have to make a terrible terrible decision (desert islands may be involved) - give up either the internet or sex for the rest of your life. Which will it be?
That's not so much a decision as a reflex :) Bye bye Internet!
3. What attribute do you most seek in a partner; what do you most seek to avoid? Are these different in a friend?
The only things I can think of to claim I look for in a partner are intelligence, and various physical attributes all of which various partners of mine have not conformed to. So actually I think its just intelligence.
Which makes me sound far deeper than I think I actually am :)
I very rarely make real friendships with people who aren't intelligent as well, so I guess that's almost my only guiding criteria for people who are worth interacting with - as friends or partners.
I do tend to avoid brashly extrovert people. Being shy and introvert myself, they seem to make me feel either harassed or annoyed, depending on what mood I'm in. Or perhaps I just wish I could be more like them.
4. How do you know that you love someone; what about that you're in love with them?
Love, because I find myself willing to put myself out for them, to a significant degree. The definition of 'significant' is of course subjective, and I suspect it's also highly variable based on how my life is currently going, but it's significant to me at that time, and I suspect would be viewed as significant by most people. Heinlein had a definition of love which is quite neat - it's that someone else's happiness is essential to your own.
In love, you could say I feel compelled to put myself out for someone rather than just being willing. Compelled by my own choice, or perhaps choice isn't the word. It's a feeling that over-rides basic common sense. Not that I ever had much of that anyway :)
5. Where do you see yourself being in five years time? 10? 20?
In bed :)