Firstly - happy belated birthday wishes. I hope in spite of everything you enjoyed it :)
Secondly - I hope everything works out in this situation. I wasn't going to write the following, because it's not like you asked for anyone's opinion but I wouldn't feel right if I didn't say it...
I'm always saddened by how easily events run away with themselves when people 'sulk' (you called it 'ignored') rather than just spit it out when there's a problem. Sulk, isn't a nice word I know and most people don't like it especially when it pertains to themselves, but really - when someone just withdraws over an upset, in this fashion (where it is dragged out, deliberately) rather than broach the issue, discuss it (move towards healing) then it is sulking imo, and it solves absolutely nothing. This would really worry me personally. Before getting involved with anyone (believe me I wish I'd taken this advice) too deeply, I'd be wanting to know if this kind of reaction was a one off, or a staying trait. After recent years, I've come to value positive conflict resolving skills rather highly and have wished more times than I care to remember, that I had been more discerning in the past.
And...**sighs**...I know this sounds cynical, but with so many people involved in one way or another as a permanent fixture or not, and with there already so many unsettled feelings, would it not be wiser for everyone to just slow down a bit? Enjoy and stabilise the existing relationships before starting anything new, or moving existing friendships to another level?
Disclaimer: I don't know any of the people involved, I'm a complete remote outsider...I can only say what comes to mind having read this, and I see a lot of red flags here. I could be wrong of course. A relationship expert I am not :) If it causes any offence to anyone, my apologies.
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Secondly - I hope everything works out in this situation. I wasn't going to write the following, because it's not like you asked for anyone's opinion but I wouldn't feel right if I didn't say it...
I'm always saddened by how easily events run away with themselves when people 'sulk' (you called it 'ignored') rather than just spit it out when there's a problem. Sulk, isn't a nice word I know and most people don't like it especially when it pertains to themselves, but really - when someone just withdraws over an upset, in this fashion (where it is dragged out, deliberately) rather than broach the issue, discuss it (move towards healing) then it is sulking imo, and it solves absolutely nothing. This would really worry me personally. Before getting involved with anyone (believe me I wish I'd taken this advice) too deeply, I'd be wanting to know if this kind of reaction was a one off, or a staying trait. After recent years, I've come to value positive conflict resolving skills rather highly and have wished more times than I care to remember, that I had been more discerning in the past.
And...**sighs**...I know this sounds cynical, but with so many people involved in one way or another as a permanent fixture or not, and with there already so many unsettled feelings, would it not be wiser for everyone to just slow down a bit? Enjoy and stabilise the existing relationships before starting anything new, or moving existing friendships to another level?
Disclaimer: I don't know any of the people involved, I'm a complete remote outsider...I can only say what comes to mind having read this, and I see a lot of red flags here. I could be wrong of course. A relationship expert I am not :) If it causes any offence to anyone, my apologies.